There are a lot of small realities you'll discover during your adolescent years, but one of the most surprising is that making friends becomes more difficult as you get older. As you get older and get more interested in different topics, it's inevitable that you'll meet someone who completely understands you in a new way.
It's rare to meet a possible pal who shares your passion for, say, obscure Canadian television or the latest K-Pop sensation. Think you and your new pal could one day compete with Tina Fey and Amy Poehler, but don't know how to elevate your friendship to BFF status? We have all of the answers.
You have more time than you think.
Making a new BFF is a lot like dating, as strange as that may sound. You must make an effort if you want to see the person! Without coming on too strong, say how happy you are that you've become friends, and how you hope you'll be able to hang out despite your hectic schedules. The key is to incorporate your new mate into existing gatherings so that there's no reason you won't be able to foster your friendship. It might be as simple as fetching them coffee in between study sessions or inviting them to accompany you on a formal shopping trip. You could even cook dinner together in your flat or watch the Oscars together! Basically, there are a plethora of simple methods to squeeze in some hang time.
Explore a new hobby.
Taking a group on an adventure is a terrific opportunity to try something new or brush up on an old skill that has been lost. And, even better, you'll be able to get out with your mate on a regular basis without having to think about it! Sign up for a ceramics class, DJ lessons, or a really bizarre exercise class. Not only will it allow you to try new things, but it will also make those new experiences simpler because having a friend with you is a lot more fun. And, hey, who better to laugh with than your soon-to-be bestie while doing trampoline aerobics?
Be proactive IRL!
To avoid flakiness, no matter what kind of plan you make, attempt to finish it when you're together (in person!). Friendships can quickly sour if you don't see each other often enough in a short amount of time. Though making preparations ahead of time may come across as a bit Type A, doing so ensures you don't lose track of time and unwittingly let the semester pass you by (which, trust us, can happen!).
Get down with tagging along.
Your new pal is a lot of fun, cool as hell, and has killer music taste...but none of your BFFs are aware of her existence. "But they're my buddies!" that tiny voice in your head may be forcing you to instinctively keep the two entities apart. Allow her to join your team instead of ruining it with your self-destructive conduct. You'll still have your new companion and your old ones if it doesn't work out, but if everyone gets along, your group could gain a new member for life. Plus, if you're in the same social circle, you'll be able to spend even more time together!
Spontaneity is key.
You have to put yourself out there to try new things, which could mean skipping your Netflix queue on a lazy Sunday to hang out with a new acquaintance at a last-minute get-together. Try not to make excuses for staying in, even if you're a creature of habit. Whether it's a last-minute dinner reservation or a spare football ticket, ignore your inner critic and step up to the plate when the opportunity arises. Scandal will not watch itself, but Olivia Pope will be waiting for you when you return.
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